SoLo part I

Every woman should travel alone. At some point in her life, she should embrace the insanity of purchasing a ticket to a random dot on the map. Revel in the agony of packing her bags, crying, panicking, imagining the worse, boarding her flight and watching the familiarity below become engulfed in clouds as her heart out roars twin turbine engines…

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Bangkok April 2016: Climbing 300 plus stairs to the top of Wat Saket

Every women should get lost. Hopelessly lost in the dirt and grime and filthy strangeness of a foreign city that defies the rules of logic and normality by which she has lived. Every fire born Goddesses should postpone a well deserved meltdown over meager accommodations that are far below what she’d suffer even the likes of a furry friend to endure.

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Cambodia October 2015: Angkor Wat

Every well-rounded, self-respecting, educated, politically correct, socially conscious woman should experience the grueling discomfort of extreme culture shock that shoves a mirror of self-reflection in the face of her pride and forces her to confront her own bias, however progressive it may be. Every woman should know the freedom of a dusty road winding to nowhere and a blank itinerary. Every daughter of Eve should know the joy of  smiling devilishly in the face of her own fear with pride that says “I fucking did that shit”.

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Honduras 2014: Break breaking Bum

Every Queen should experience this cruel and unpredictable world rife with mounting conflict and political instability, as not so dangerous after all because, yes she survived and came back home in one shining transformed piece…otherwise unmolested. Every women should taste the curried spice of the world. Taste the bitter. Taste the sweet and sour that makes you sweat and pucker and ironically yearn for more.

Traveling alone is dangerous. Especially for women. Especially for women alone. Especially for women alone in certain places. But every women should tempt the danger of a notion that says safety is a commodity exclusive to the geographic region to which she is native. Every women should say “Fuck That” to ideals and socially imposed limitations that cage her Goddess wings and suggests that she is incomplete for having failed to fulfill domestic or professional obligations at the expense of pursuing opportunities to be free, feral and fabulous.

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Belize 2014: Taking in the Xunantunich ruins

Every women should travel alone, because when she embraces the solitude. The silence. The turmoil of an upside down, ass backwards world in which everyone else is a foreigner and she is victim of ‘their’ lack of civility, she changes. Slowly, from the inside out. She opens to an immense space in which she is free To Be, free to question herself and the thirty-four thousand voices she’s learned to accept as her own. In that space questions lead to further questioning and questioning to feverish digging, to upheaval and rebirth. A rebirth that baptizes her travel-worn soul in transformation and reconciliation with Oneness. I am that woman traveling alone. 

What are your thoughts, feelings, experiences on/re solo female travel?

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14 thoughts on “SoLo part I

  1. This stirred the Wells of my soul n made me happy I’m leaving today on my adventure to the unknown. Solo travel is integral to growth especially as a woman. Being comfortable with yourself is something that can take time, and solo travel does just t that. Gets you comfy with you and the vast world in between.

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    1. Thank you for stopping by Shanna! Wishing you an awesome trip. I could not agree more about the growth factor in traveling alone as a woman. I’m really happy this piece was meaningful to you. Happy Travels Girl!

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  2. I like it! It really made me think about women from other places and their culture and customs and how there is strength there. Exposing yourself to it won’t show you their weakness but the strength of her DIFFERENT lifestyle. I might be rambling here but I hope you get what I’m saying. 😉😎

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    1. Kenny thanks so much for your input! Yes, as a woman it feels really good to see and experience the strength of other woman in so many different contexts. We share so much more than I think we anticipate.

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  3. Love this! I just returned from a solo trip to Marrakesh and I was absolutely in my element…defying the fear of my family and friends to venture off the beaten path and live according to the drum beats of my heart. Came back and planned a trip to Iceland to bring in the New Year and a trip to Tanzania for my birthday in 2017!

    Fear has absolutely no place in my life!

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    1. Hi I am traveling to Morocco Solo next April and I am so excited. I have traveled to Europe, the UK and the Caribbean solo and had absolutely no issues. Morocco is a little different because of the Islamic culture but i have made a bunch of connections with Western women who live there via Facebook groups so I plan to definitely hook up with them but I am also looking forward to interacting with the locals. I cannot wait.

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      1. Hi Sondra! Thank you for stopping by. I’d love to hear about how your tip to Morocco turns out. I hoping to one day visit there as well. Good idea with getting some social support and connections going before you arrive, that is a strategy I need to add to my bag of tricks…especially for a long haul stay. Happy Travels to you!

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      2. Thanks I feel the same way. These are a great group of women the majority are from the West. They are very open and welcoming. Initially I was going to spend around 6K using a travel agency. They talked me out of it. I cannot wait

        Have a great weekend

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  4. A very beautifully written article with a lot of courage and inner power to face the unknown. I am deeply touched by your statements and the transcperancy of the emotional side of self. You normalized the feelings of any woman travelling alone and this in itself instills strength to actually engage in such a scary endeavour. I am not necessarily talking about visiting modern cities, but also simple and basic societies, where many of your assumptions and ways of living are shattered. I love the way you explained freedom from cultural as well as professional obligations, I think this is a very important concept and an inspiring way to look at life. I have had mainly joyful experiences with solo travel, ,however these times were not immune against sad and lonely times. I also become very concerned about my safety almost all the time. Lovely post honey, looking forward to reading the next post. Tons of love to you and your beautiful soul.

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    1. Thank you so much Zena for your love and support in sharing so much here! Missing you tonz. I’d like for this space to really capture what I feel and experience. Yes, it’s very true we face lonely times and sadness as part of going Solo, I think especially when it’s long term. Still dreaming of visiting and us doing UAE together. XOXOXO

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